Online Dating: When Should You Meet in Person?

Posted on April 18, 2012 by admin

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Short answer: It depends.

Long answer: It depends on the length and depth of your messages, if you’ve spoken on the phone, when you feel comfortable, and lastly, how many dud dates you can tolerate going on…

Length and Depth of Your Messages

A first date doesn’t have to be a blind date. You should (at least) vaguely know who you are about to meet. That said, if you try to put off meeting a guy until you could write a biography of his life, you are never going to meet anyone in person. A guy will lose interest far before the first date ever (doesn’t) come. And if he doesn’t, there is probably something wrong with him.

If You’ve Spoken on the Phone

Do I like his voice? That might be all I need to know to tell if I’ll be attracted to him. A 2004 study found that a deep voice in men indicates both more symmetrical facial features and muscle mass, both of which I indicate as dead sexy. And call me old-fashioned, but when a guy asks me out on a date, I want it to be over the phone. Not via an email or a text message. A formal asking out just makes me feel more valued and comfortable, which brings me to my next deciding factor…

When You Feel Comfortable

Besides wearing jeggings, Uggs, and under wire-free bras, knowing a last name makes me feel more comfortable meeting a virtual stranger in person. Because then, and only then, can I effectively Google him.

How Many Dud Dates You Can Tolerate Going On

The less time you wait to meet, the more dates you will go on…but a higher percentage of them will be awful. But you still might get a free meal, and that should never go unappreciated.

xo,
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Posted on April 17, 2012 by admin

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Online Dating Profiles: To Lie or Not to Lie?

Posted on April 16, 2012 by admin

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The first time, I thought it was unfortunate.

The second time, I thought it was a coincidence.

But the third time I met a guy from online only to find he had a huge gap between his two front teeth, I realized it wasn’t a coincidence at all; guys with gap-tooth smiles only post closed-lip photos in their online dating profiles.

Of course, we all show off the "best" versions of ourselves online. The popular online dating site OkCupid, for instance, has found that on average online daters are two inches shorter and 20% poorer than they say they are in their profiles, and the more attractive a person’s profile picture, the more likely it is to be out of date.

But should we all exaggerate in our online dating profiles?

I’m going to say no. And not because the guys’ gap teeth turned me off, but because their hiding their gap teeth turned me off a whole hell of a lot. It showed that they felt insecure about that part of themselves. Did they not think they could get a date if they showed their true smiles?

Sure, they probably get more first dates only showing their hot, semi-smoldering, closed-lip smiles. But they probably get less second dates that way than they would if they also showed their true, big gappy smiles.

So let’s all just all post our real height, our real body type, and yes, even our un-Photoshoped pictures online. Because what’s the fun in being insecure, turned off, and generally awkward?

xo,

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