Hillary Clinton, Robert Pattinson, and Kourtney Kardasian all did it—they forgave their partners for cheating. Now, another famous couple has overcome infidelity: Huma Abedin, U.S. deputy chief of staff and secretary of state aid, has forgiven her husband, former congressman Anthony Weiner, after news of his cyber cheating became public in May 2011, according to a profile published recently in The New York Times.

Unless the cheater is habitually unfaithful and unwilling to change, couples can move past the pain of infidelity, says Jean Fitzpatrick, a New York-based psychotherapist and marriage counselor with more than 20 years of experience. The caveat? Both parties need to be up for putting in the necessary time and effort—and it won’t be easy.

If you’re trying to mend things with your guy, read these tips on how to truly forgive him and build trust in your relationship.

As Abedin told the Times: “It took a lot of work, both mentally and in the way we engage with each other, for me to get to a place where I said: ‘OK, I’m in. I’m staying in this marriage.’”

To get to that place, Abedin leaned on her family and one woman who knows how it feels to be in Abedin’s shoes: former Secretary of State Hilary Clinton. The former first lady was living in the White House when Bill Clinton cheated on her with Monica Lewinsky.

Hillary’s advice, according to the article: “Every woman should have the ability and the confidence and the choice to make whatever decisions she wants to make that are right for her and not be judged by it.”

So what decision would you make if your partner cyber cheated? What if he real-life cheated? Would you give him a second chance?

More from WH:
Why Men and Women Cheat
How to Prevent Cheating In Your Marriage
Why Smart Men Do Sleazy Things

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